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There’s little mystery behind a lecture called Fornication 101. But, there is plenty of debate about it at Central Connecticut State University.
A sex educator named Megan Andelloux is giving the lecture, which she tells The Hartford Courant is a “study of how people experience the erotic and express themselves as sexual beings with an emphasis on jollies, attitude awareness, sexual skill building and health.”
Andelloux has talked at dozens of schools, including Yale, Wesleyan and the Universities of Connecticut and said she’s never gotten negative comments about her work before, but she’s been receiving e-mails calling her “disgusting” and that she was contributing to immorality, the Courantreports.
Professors at CCSU are also putting their opinions on a university listerv.
Mark McLaughlin, a spokesman for the university, told the Courant he thinks the negative reaction is based on misconceptions that taxpayer money is being used to pay for the lecture. TheRuthe Boyea Women’s Center on campus and is sponsoring the event, which is paid for with private donations.
The spokesman also thinks people are confusing the lecture with an academic course and that it’s about sex rather than sexuality.
“We feel, despite the provocative title, her presentation really does focus on health, sexual consent, and providing a frank and open, factual presentation designed to appeal to college students,” McLaughlin told the Courant.
POSTED: 5:04 pm EST February 7, 2011
NEW BRITAIN, Conn. — A new controversial sex seminar that could be coming to Central Connecticut State University in New Britain is raising eyebrows. It’s an explicit seminar that’s also offered at a number of other schools in the state.
This one-hour presentation put on by a Rhode Island based sexologist was initially slated to come to campus last week.
Fornication 101 is a seminar that promised to help participants “experience the erotic attitude awareness and sexual skill building.”
“It doesn’t seem to be a bad thing,” said student Ethan Pelletier. “We’re all adults here.”
Many different topics were to be discussed in a steamy sexology seminar slated to come to campus at CCSU before being canceled last week.
Certified sexologist Megan Andelloux, also known as Ms. Sexuality Speaker, tours universities talking about adult sex education.
One concerned woman in Meriden emailed Eyewitness News saying she was appalled her tax dollars would support such an offensive program, but school officials said the program was privately funded.
According to a university official, funds for the $600 presentation would come from private donations given to the Ruthe Boyea Women’s Center in support of its educational mission.
Taxpayer dollars are not used.
Despite the provocative title, the presentation clearly focuses on health, sexual consent and on providing a frank, open, positive and factual presentation designed to appeal to college-age students.
Officials said the seminar hasn’t been re-scheduled, but according to the sex educator’s website, she’ll be on campus in March.
Sex is stressful. I applaud women who have mastered the art of one-handed bra removal, that certain seductive take-me-now gaze, and who have never once faltered while tearing open a condom wrapper in the heat of the moment. For the rest of us, the girls who don’t really know what to say and the girls who wonder “am I really doing this right?” it’s almost enough to make us swear off sex all together, almost.
Sex provides a laundry-list of anxieties: is my birth control working; is the third date too soon; thong or boy-short? Even having sex with yourself is nerve-wracking between wondering if time would be better spent finishing your term paper and making sure your roommate actually went to her 4:30 class. Then there are the toys—so many different kinds of toys that any sex shop or web-store is bound to make you feel like you’re stuck somewhere in the Wizard of Oz and just cannot find your way back home. Well, tap your fabulous, sequined stilettos together and consider this your yellow brick road. Here’s Her Campus’s guide to sex toys.
With so many options to choose from, it’s easy to become overwhelmed, especially if you are new to the world of sex toys like Chelsea*, a Hofstra University Sophomore. After discussing it with her boyfriend, she decided to take the plunge.
“We decided to go to Spencer’s Gifts and see what kind of sex toys they had there. When I walked to the back of the store where they keep the sex toys, I was suddenly overwhelmed. There we so many to choose from,” she said. “I was a tad confused on which one I should choose, considering I wasn’t even sure if I was ready to embark on the sex toy journey. At the same time I was kind of intrigued by the whole thing, they really had everything for any kind of pleasure you wanted to experience.”
If you’re like Chelsea and don’t know where to start, here are three of the most popular toys according to a Her Campus survey of college women:
Vibrator A vibrator is a toy designed to stimulate your precious lady parts by vibrating against them, either internally or externally. They come in many different styles, from small, discreet bullet shaped toys to larger phallic models, which are sometimes referred to as dildos, though not all dildos vibrate. They also come in other varieties, like vibrating underwear, for an extra saucy dinner-date.
Strap On A strap on is harness designed to hold a dildo or vibrating dildo in order to facilitate penetration. It can be used by any sex or gender, just like vibrators or anal plugs, which is why it’s super popular.
Anal Plug Anal plugs are sex toys designed to fit snugly into your sexy bottom. Some women say they help them orgasm, for others, it’s just a turn-on.
Erasing your doubts.
Did you know 57% of college aged guys and girls surveyed in an exclusive Her Campus poll said that they’ve used sex toys? Out of those who haven’t, 80% said that they know someone who has. That adds up to most of us, yet walking into a sex shop can still make anyone bashful. This is why lots of us have the tendency to blindly pick out a toy like it’s a used vinyl record in the discount bin, and run. Just like when you’re record shopping, cool album art and a snappy band name don’t mean the songs are any good.
Whether you’re a virgin who’s never seen a sex toy, already have an enormous collection hidden in your underwear drawer, or someone who’d consider their sex life pretty vanilla (hey, vanilla is a good flavor too!), it’s still important to know what you want. There are three crucial elements to any sex toy purchase: use, look, and material. If you’ve considered these three things, then that’s half the battle.
“I have to say,” says Chelsea, “I never thought I would be using sex toys with myself, or with my significant other, but I am for sure a fan now. Ever since that one day, I have gone back and bought several more toys to test out.”
Like Chelsea, once you’ve broken free from the shackles of shyness, and can proudly proclaim that you do in fact want to buy a sex toy (or at least shop for one online in the confines of your bedroom), you must ask yourself one simple question: what exactly do I want to do with this thing?
“You want to think about if you want to be using it as an external toy or an internal toy,” says Megan Andelloux, certified Sexologist and Sexuality Educator. “Vibration tends to work best externally, even though some people like to use it internally.”
If you want a toy specifically for internal use, you need to decide which kind of stimulation you want—G-Spot or anal stimulation.
The G-Spot, located on the inside of the front vaginal wall, is a mystery to many women, so it’s no wonder that 40% of readers surveyed prefer toys for external stimulation. Let it be a mystery no more; purchasing a toy with a curvature will help you reach that sweet spot that’s easy to miss with your hands.
If you’re looking for anal stimulation, you have to be a little more careful.
“If [the toy is] used for anal it has to have a flange,” she says.
A flange is the flared ending on toys designed to be used anally which prevents them from getting lost inside of you.
In the same way that rock hard abs and deep blue eyes made you fall for that Campus Cutie, the right looks can lead you to the perfect sex toy.
“It’s important to keep in mind what turns you on, what type of stimulation you want, what looks appealing to you,” says Andelloux. “Does it look like something you want to play with? Some people really like abstract art-type sex toys, whereas other people feel more comfortable with animal themes like The Rabbit.”
So what turns you on? Do you like neon colors or prefer things to be a bit more anatomically correct? 28% of readers said they like their toys to be fun and colorful, while a whopping 48% agreed that toys should be discreet.
If you’re looking for something ultra-cute to impress your beaux, Andelloux recommends the Pyrex Mint Plug by Crystal Delights. “[It’s] bling for your butt. How could someone not want to play with a sparkly butt?”
For someone who’s a bit more demure she also recommends the Fingo by Screaming-O, a small bullet type vibrator used for external stimulation. “It’s small so it doesn’t scare people,” she says. “It’s fabulous to use during oral sex and it’s less than $20.”
A sex toy is like your favorite t-shirt. You want it to look good on you and be versatile, but most of all, you want it to be comfortable. This is why material matters. Would you settle for a cheap poly-blend when you could have 100% cotton? Of course not.
“You want to think about the type of materials,” says Andelloux, “hard and firm will carry more vibration, or do you want it to be soft and feel more lifelike?”
It’s also imperative to make sure that the material is safe. Plastic toys or toys that contain jelly may contain Phalates, which are linked to cancer, reproductive failure, and intersex conditions, and can leak out of poorly made toys.
“If the sex toy salesman recommends you use a condom over [the toy], that’s a sign it has Phalates,” Andelloux explains.
If your toy might have Phalates, it’s best to use a condom or skip it all together. There are plenty of other options that are effective, inexpensive, and safe.
Do what feels right.
With sex toys, it’s important to remember that it’s all about what makes you feel good. While most of our minds default to the small, discreet vibrator we saw in that infamous episode of “Sex and the City” when we think about it, that doesn’t mean it’s the only option. There are many different kinds of sex toys for every woman’s unique needs. Your best friend might love to use a strap-on or fool around with anal-beads, but you might like things slightly more traditional.
When surveyed, an overwhelming number of Her Campus readers admitted to strictly using vibrators, and one even divulged us in her secret—she uses an electric tooth brush, but if that’s too vanilla for your tastes, there are some options that are a little more risqué. Not all toys are created for the bedroom—some allow us to get our freak on when we are walking to class or dancing in the club.
Club Vibe by OhMiBod is a small vibrator that slips into a special pair of panties. “You wear it to a club,” Andelloux says, “and it vibrates to the base of the music the DJ is playing.”
Luna Ball, a small plastic ball designed to tone Kegel muscles, is another sex toy that you can wear out like your favorite pair of blue jeans.
“You can wear them around campus all day long, and they provide a fun party in your pants while toning your Kegel muscles to give you stronger orgasms,” says Adelloux, “They are not designed to give you orgasms, but they are designed to make you feel fun like you have a special secret inside.”
Whether you are looking for something discreet, loud, for the bedroom, or for the world outside, sex toys can add an element of surprise to spice up your relationship, or provide the excitement of a steamy hook-up when you’re flying solo. Once you pick out a sex toy that fits your needs, there is only one more rule—have fun.
*names have been changed to protect identity.
Sources: Chelsea*, Sophomore at Hofstra University
Megan Andelloux, Certified Sexuality Educator (AASECT), Board Certified Sexologist (ACS)
Sex Toys Survey administered by Her Campus, Spring 2010
Voice Vixen here, reporting on the Female Orgasm Seminar which took place this past Friday night. Content warning, the following does acknowledge the existence of sex and is textually NSFW.
6:45 So this thing hasn’t started yet and already Science Center C is a writing mass of hot bodies, packed front to back with Harvard Students who apparently want to know the ins and outs of the female orgasm. There is a table up front arrayed with various sex toys ranging from purple to pink to… pinker. I’ve picked up a raffle ticket, wish me luck!
6:46: A group of guys sitting behind me can’t seem to say the word clitoris without whispering. One of them says he hopes to hear about some “serious technique.” I suppress judgement, it seems clear that boys of Harvard could really use the help.
6:55 It IS SO LOUD IN HERE. It’s almost like every person in the room is having a really intelligibly vocal orgasm. Rabble rabble rabble!
6:00 Ruth Lingford (VES Professor, Department Head) has started talking about her videos interviewing people to describe their orgasms. Her film is a minimalist stop motion animation with voiceover’s of said descriptions. It is notably replete with phrases like “chocolate mousse”, “volcanic”, “like icing”, “I thought of broccoli”. All this food talk really makes me want a cupcake. Everyone laughs at a software update popup, but the video is otherwise really interesting and captivatingly animated.
7:05 I begin to tally the number of times people say “orgasm.”
7:08 I don’t know whether to be encouraged by the number of people in the room or really, really saddened by the balls-to-the-wall, people-standing-in-the-aisles attendance.
7:16 To describe the scene, on the table in the front is a VAST array of sex toys, apparently $1000 worth of swag. Apparently the Voice’s good blogging sista, Lena Chen of Sex and The Ivy, graciously supplied the sex toys to be given away. We love you Lena!
Note: The men here are definitely, the loudest, brashest people in the audience. Voice Vixen does not like. The sex educator/sexologist however, is extremely cool and sexy. Just sayin’. High waisted skirt, white blouse, librarian glasses. A Harvard gal might steal this look.
7:21 Surprisingly, the “orgasm” iteration count is only at 8 – I think we can do better than this.
7:22 So cute/gross, everyone in the audience just said ‘Pap Smears’ altogether, like a three-year old says “Good Morning Mr. Rogers!”
7:23: Highlight of the event: women referred to as “vaginal owners”, because not everyone who has a vagina identifies as female. Thank you! This is a vast improvement upon the utterly heteronormative seminars of yesteryear.
The sexologist lays it down for us, figuratively. Some great quotes:
“Everyone has an asshole, everyone has a mouth. Those are the great equalizers.”
In reference to always using lube for anal sex: “My job is to make sure you don’t rip your butthole.”
“This is one of my vulva puppets.”
“For the love of god masturbation is good for you.”
“There are no absolutes in human sexuality.”
HOLY CRAP COOL FACT: Greatest number of orgasms had by a woman in a sexual study: 134 in one hour. Everyone feels inadequate.
7:30 There is way too much hooting and hollering from the men in here. You dogs you.
MORE TECHNIQUE/HELPFUL FACTS:
7:47 “Orgasm” count now way up to 49.
7:57 We’re about to watch a clip from “Viva La Vulva.” Oh, yes, you really should have come to this. So. many. vulvas. Everyone is rapt with attention though; half the guys in the room have their hands near their mouth or their chins. A woman with really, really strong PC muscles is displaying herself COMPLETELY. I can’t help but wonder how many Harvard boys have even seen this before, let alone projected 6 feet tall in a on a screen. Vaginal show and tell.
The sexologist mentioned genital shaving and every girl groaned.
8:12 We’ve moved onto the clitoris!
8:22 We’re onto vibrators and toys:
8:41: final “orgasm” word count at 67.
Final Thoughts: While Voice Vixen did not snag a cupcake, she assumes they could only have been magnificent. In any case the talk was incredibly informative. It’s amazing how mis/uneducated individuals can be about their own bodies. Voice Vixen came away cringingly refreshed as did many of the others in attendance. If anything can be surmised from the incredibly participatory, enraptured, and VOCAL student responses, it’s that the event was an incredible success. Alas, we did not win a sex toy (there was a Hello Kitty vibrator… NOOOO!) but we definitely give kudos to The Radcliffe Union of Students for their work putting this together. Look forward to it next year, and get there EARLY because there wasn’t an empty seat in the house! Harvard kids might be sexually frustrated, but sh*t if they aren’t willing to educate themselves. The main advice of the night: Relax, be safe , learn more, read more, masturbate more, and remember to relax that jaw!
By Kelly Smith
Dildos, vibrators and strap-ons in every shade of pink titillated students while the distinct hum of plastic on tabletop mixed with the explosive giggles of the audience. At the front of the room was a spread of promiscuous products ranging from penis pumps to some kinky gizmos most people in the room didn’t know existed.
Megan Andelloux, a certified sexuality educator, licensed sexologist, foot fetish model and physical love guru, stood at the front of the room, plush vulva puppet in hand.
“There are some ground rules to this presentation,” she said. “Please put all cell phones on vibrate and place them between your legs. You can touch everything on the table, but please don’t put anything in your mouth.”
After this coital canon was set, she opened up questions to the audience. Students then secretly scribbled his or her most pressing inquiries on index cards to be answered throughout the program.
As a part of Condom Awareness Week 2009, the sex toy workshop which set out to promote fun, safe sex, was sponsored by the Class of 2011 Class Council and the Emerson Alliance of Gays, Lesbians and Everyone, a student organization which promotes the acceptance of queer culture throughout the Emerson community. At least 40 students gathered in the Bill Bordy April 13 to discuss singular sensations and alternate pleasures.
But this event was not about engaging in risky business. Rather, the topics discussed were about enjoying how much fun sex can be-even alone.
Andelloux said she promotes masturbation as a form of Sexually Transmitted Infection prevention. In response to those who dis dildos and other toys, she used a simple analogy.
“Toilets aren’t natural, but they make our lives better,” she said. “Masturbation is good for the mind and body. It’s the safest sex you are going to get.”
While the sexologist went down her list of sex toys and coital gadgets, she also provided advice from a combination of medical and pleasure studies, as well as her own experiences.
“My deal is that I bridge the world between the medical community and the pleasurable community,” she said. “I marry the two together that usually turn their backs on each other.”
As far as favorites go, Andelloux said to each his or her own. Her plaything of preference, however, she said looks like a sneaker but feels like partner play.
“The Galan is not about aesthetics, it’s about how it functions. It’s even quiet in the shower,” she said.
But the demonstration wasn’t just a sales pitch. Andelloux explained the ins and outs of the sex toy industry providing examples of what materials to steer clear of in stores.
“Don’t let your toys screw you,” she said. “I like happy vaginas.”
There are two main products to avoid: Anal Ease, a numbing cream for anal play and vaginal tightening cream-both of which may cause damage to one’s private parts. If a store sells these products it is a tell tale sign to try another shop.
Prude and promiscuous Emersonians alike said they enjoyed the workshop for both its shock and educational value.
Freshman Pat Lambert was asked to model one of the strap-on dildos during one of the demonstrations. He said he loved to be a part of the workshop and was planning on buying some of the toys after the show.
“This woman was riveting. I have learned more here in one hour than I have in any of my classes at Emerson,” the political communication major said. “You never knew how open everyone was. It was like having a group orgy via talking. Or how cool your body is. I didn’t know my body could do this.”
Deborah Engler, coordinator for wellness education at the Center for Health and Wellness said she would talk about condoms all day if it meant students would practice safer sex. The workshop, she said would help students see the educational and fun aspects of masturbation and sex.
“The workshop is about how there are a million and one ways to pleasure yourself without a partner and how it’s the safest way,” she said. “It’s about being safe and experimental at the same time.”
By the end of the night, Andelloux asked the audience what were three things learned from the workshop. The cumulative response: Before you buy lube, taste it, exercise your vagina every day and pee before and after you play.
Heavens above, sex and love: Q & A with sexologist
As a part of Condom Awareness Week 2009, Sexologist Megan Andelloux spurted her knowledge to a group of eager-eyed Emersonians on topics most would blush to bring up. The following are some of the questions asked anonymously during Monday, April 13th’s sex toy workshop in the Bill Bordy Theater.
What is the best way to give a hand job?
“Approach it as a genital massage. All those things that they didn’t want to be called in high school-that’s what they want to be called now. Bring them up to a certain point and then bring them back down. Whatever body part you are touching, you are there to tease and to tantalize him.”
Is it normal for a vagina to close up before sex?
“If someone is nervous for whatever reason, their vagina goes into lock-down mode-nothing’s coming in here without a fight. This usually happens more at the gynecologist’s office than before sex play. But it won’t become a steel trap door, it’s just going to get more difficult to put things in there. But there are physical indicators as to whether the vagina is ready for physical penetration. The inner lips will open up-open for business or closed for business.”
I’m gay and haven’t had good sex yet. What should I do?
“Stop reading magazines, because they are designed to make you feel bad about the types of sex that you’re having. Good sex should be fun. Sex is play-time for adults. It’s not that you need to have orgasms every time or about keeping up with the Jones’s. These are the things we hear a lot, but sex should be playful-you should be laughing. Awkward things happen during sex and you have to embrace it because it makes amazing stories a few weeks down the road.”
How many times a day can you orgasm without hurting yourself?
“As long as we aren’t hearing any physical damage like popping things or chafing, I say go for it. It has been proven that orgasms decrease mild depression, it gets rid of headaches, gets rid of menstral cramps so fuck Midol, just cum. But my favorite thing about orgasms is that if you have a cut on your body, they help speed the healing process up.”
What do you do when you and your partner are having bad sex?
“If you aren’t having good sex talk about it in a non-serious format like at the supermarket. There are lots of fun distractions-the freezer aisle is perfect for when you are breaking out in hives, you can easily pop your head in the freezer to stop looking at your partner and pretend you are looking at how the fishsticks are on sale. Everyone around you is bored-they aren’t listening, but if they are, you are giving them a good excuse to be at the supermarket.”
Is it normal to have a burning sensation when you pee for one to three days after sex?
“Nope. This is not normal. You should really go see a physician to find out what’s going on down there.”