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But the Talk Provides Frank and Open Health Facts
For Immediate Release
Sexuality educators set the record straight: “Talking about sexuality does not increase sexually transmitted infections” despite what non-experts report.
Contact: Megan Andelloux
Contact: Aida Manduley
In yet another attempt to shut down access to quality sex education, South-Eastern New England conservative advocates hit the sex panic button in a multi-state, email and phone campaign to colleges all over New England last week.
On February 3rd and 4th , certified sexuality educator and sexologist Megan Andelloux (AASECT, ACS) received word that numerous colleges and university faculty received a document stating that colleges who brought sex educators such as Ms. Andelloux onto their campuses were linked to the increasing rate of transmission of HIV in RI. Furthermore, among other misleading “facts” that were “cited,” the author of this bulletin claimed that Brown University was facing an HIV crisis, which is false.
Citizens Against Trafficking, the face behind the fear-mongering, spammed numerous local institutions from a University of Rhode Island account with its latest malicious missive that targeted specific individuals as well as Brown University. The author of the letter, Margaret Brooks, an Economics Professor at Bridgewater State, suggested that colleges and universities that host sexuality speakers, including those who are professionally accredited, are partly to blame for the four new cases of HIV which have been diagnosed amongst RI college students this year.
Ms. Andelloux states: “My heart goes out to those students who have recently tested positive for HIV. However, there is no evidence of any link between campus presentations on sexual issues and the spike in HIV cases. Rather, I would suggest that this demonstrates a need for more high-quality sex education to college students.“ It is unclear why people at URI or Citizens Against Trafficking, a coalition to combat all forms of human trafficking, is attempting to stop adults from accessing sexual information from qualified, trained educators. What is certain however, is that this Professor of Economics miscalculated her suggestion that a correlation exists between increased HIV rates in Rhode Island and the type of sex education these speakers provided at Brown University: one that emphasized accurate information, risk-reduction, pleasure, and health.
Barrier methods have been shown by the CDC to reduce the transmission of HIV and other STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections). Research has shown that when individuals have access to medically-accurate information, are aware of sexual risk reduction methods, and have access to learn about sexual health, the number of infections and transmission of STIs decreases, pain during sex decreases, and condom use increases. The CAT circulated bulletin is blatantly misleading about many issues, and often omits information that is crucial to understanding the full picture of sex education at Brown and in Rhode Island.
Shanna Katz M.Ed, one of the educators listed in the bulletin states, “In today’s world, many people are sexually active without having ever learned about sex itself. Educating adults about how to better communicate with their partner and how to protect themselves physically and emotionally is vital to the health and wellness of our culture. Without this information and skill sets, we are back in the 1950s, with people feeling guilt around sex, and feeling as though their desires are wrong.”
Reid Mihalko states, “In an age where the majority of college-age adults have only experienced federally funded abstinence-only sex education, continue to get their visual cues about sex from mainstream porn, and feel unsafe talking to their parents and school administrators about accurate sexual health information, I am committed to teaching men and women of all ages comprehensive, pragmatic safer sex practices and how to think for themselves when it comes to making the best sex and intimacy choices for them.”
When individuals who do not hold any background in sexuality education speak out in opposition because of their fear or prejudice, society becomes rooted in outdated beliefs and pseudo-science that do injustice to people everywhere. Furthermore, when those individuals personally and publicly attack those devoted to providing sex education with false and misinformed accusations, it not only hurts those who are defamed, but also the community at large.
We ask for an immediate retraction of the vilifying and inaccurate statements made by Ms. Margaret Brooks and Citizens Against Trafficking in their latest newsletter. We also ask that esteemed local universities such as URI and Bridgewater State continue to hold their employees to ethical standards of normal scientific inquiry and require that their faculty hold some modicum of expertise in a field of education before raising the public level of panic over it.
Megan Andelloux is available to answer any questions the press, Margaret Brooks, University of Rhode Island or Citizens Against Trafficking holds. Aida Manduley, the Chair of Brown University’s Sexual Health Education and Empowerment Council and Brown University’s is available to discuss the upcoming Sex Week and sexuality workshops held at Brown University.
|Quick Tidbits on Kicking Up Sexual Desire|
By Megan Andelloux
Much of the information presented about sex is not mind blowing. In fact, some of it may cause you to think, “Of course I know that!” But here’s the deal, there is a difference between knowing it and practicing it. So if you are struggling in the talking sex department, take these ideas out for a test drive instead of leaving them parked in the garage.
Create a Sexier You
*Define and identify what sexy means to you. What makes someone sexy? Is it the way they walk? How they smile? The way they talk? Go beyond the body parts and think about what attitudes create sexiness.
*Walk around naked as much as possible (and appropriate). It gets you more comfortable with your body.
*Strive to appreciate your genitals. People who feel better about their genitals report having more satisfying sex.
*Do your Kegel exercises. It gets blood flowing, creates stronger orgasms and makes you pay attention to your genitals.
*Masturbate. Privately (although you can do it together too). Masturbation teaches you what you like, what fantasies get you off and where you like to be touched.
*Talk about sex, your feelings, and your desires. Talking about sex and your feelings can help you feel more confident about playtime, discussing what you like or what you might like to try out.
*Stop saying “I Should” unless you really want to. “Should-ing” just leads to guilt and stress, which actually reduces the libido.
Kicking Up Desire
*Masturbate (privately). Contrary to popular belief, masturbating actually increases sexual desire.
*Do Your Kegels. They are good for you. Stronger orgasms. Enough said.
*Exercise. Exercise gets the blood flowing, makes the body healthier and increases sexual desire.
*Get help with the household chores. It’s true, people who have partners that help out around the house report having more sex because they are less stressed.
*Use your cycle to your advantage. Chart it out. Certain times of the month can increase sexual libido. If you know ahead of time when your sex drive might kick into high gear, you could plan a fun surprise to heighten the experience!
*Think about sexy things throughout the day. Your brain is the most important sex organ there is. Work it out.
* Get rid of the term foreplay. Foreplay is part of sex; it’s not just something you do to get to sex.
*Hold hands, connect and touch your partner outside of playtime romps. Become sensual. Enjoy your partner’s body. Enjoy your body.
*KISS Your partner hello and goodbye. Really kiss them. Linger in your partner’s lips. Enjoy the sensations you sought when you were first dating. Kissing helps you reconnect with your partner, but if often gets taking for granted the longer a relationship lasts.
*It’s more than technique. Maybe you’ve read every book there is to being the best lover, but if your head isn’t into it, your body is going to have a hard time getting aroused. Good sex is about connecting, experiencing and feeling. Good sex is about playing, laughing, being fully present, feeling your emotions, connecting and experiencing the sensations that arise.
Kicking up sexual desire can be tough work, but the good thing about it is most of the recommended tips are free. So the next time, you’re bored or strapped for cash, you can work on your libido! Learning more about yourself, experience new dimensions and play, it’s all part of the course to having a healthy sexual persona.
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