This week we caught up with certified sexuality educator and ACS board certified Sexologist, Megan Andelloux to ask her probing questions on love, life and the prostate…
1. Hey Megan, you look like a rather wholesome lady, what prompted you to become a Sexologist?
Chuckle…this question makes me laugh. Aren’t we all wholesome?!
During college, I found I had a knack for memorizing sexual facts. Every night at supper, I would amaze and intrigue friends at the table with my “fact of the day”. I loved spreading factual knowledge, piquing my friends’ interests, and confronting the taboo topic (sex) all at once. As it was coming from a lady who was raised with manners and properness, it became even more titillating. I reveled in the fact that I was talking about something everyone wanted to know about, but few seemed to have the courage to do.
Becoming a sexologist was not a career choice I had ever heard of a woman taking on and so along with providing education and reducing fear and shame, it was a way for me to challenge the gender roles I was expected to engage in.
My mother always called me a “Contrarian”, saying “When someone says don’t, you do.” Sex is such biological drive, a natural function and an endless source of curiosity, yet so much shame surrounds it for many folks. Talking about sexuality openly is a way for me to model that there is power talking openly and honestly and it can be done with class and yes, even for the prim and proper like me.
2. Where are you based? Do you have any plans to come to the UK?
I am based out of the US in New England – Rhode Island to be exact. There, I run a sexuality resource center called The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, in addition to travelling across the states to provide sex education to students, professionals, medical schools and sex toys shops.This year I am releasing a new sex education project, The Study Sex Tour, which will be taking in the States. I plan on bringing The Study Sex Tour to the UK next year!
3. What are the most common issues you come across during your workshops and counselling?
The most common question I come across is concern or fear, which is what causes me to continue working in the field of sexuality education. Due to the lack of information received regarding sexuality, bodily reactions, fantasies and desires, many people think they aren’t normal or something is wrong, when in fact, their bodies and minds are usually operating on a healthy level. It’s heartbreaking to hear people discuss the shame, the embarrassment and the concern they hold within themselves due to the lack of frank, honest, medically accurate information.
I work everyday to dispel fears, myths and trust, appreciation of the body and excitement for consensual sexual play. Sex is healthy! Sex is fun! Sex should be rejoiced!
4. As you know, we are all about the male G-Spot here at Nexus. Whilst everyone is very much aware of the female G-spot, the male equivalent is shrouded in mystery and taboo. Would you mind explaining to our dear readers what it’s all about?
I’m a huge advocate for discovering the Prostate! Prostates should be loved, because often the few times we hear about it is because of cancer. They offer so much more than just bad feelings. In fact, stimulating the prostate is very healthy and enjoyable!
5. What can men do to enjoy this little gland?
If a male chooses to explore his prostate, there are a number of ways that he can stimulate it. Fingers (fun, free and always accessible!) can fit in tight spots and be a way to build intimacy between partners. Using the finger in a “ringing the doorbell” motion works beautifully, just remember to go slow! Don’t “ring the doorbell” like you’re anxious to use the bathroom, but maybe in a way that is tentative, build the excitement, make him want it, crave your touch.
Toys can also be used, look for items that are curved, as the prostate gland is located towards the front of the tummy, so all toys should have a curvature design to them. Some men prefer the toy to gently rest on the prostate, some prefer it to wiggle around a bit on the prostate and others prefer a vibration to be part of their prostate stimulation.
When stimulating the prostate gland, remember to always use good lube, to go slow, and to make sure the toy has a flared base, also known as a flange, on it.
6. If you enjoy prostate stimulation, does that make you …… to read more click HERE
